Have you ever had anxiety? Have you ever had anxiety from a friendship or a relationship? I’ve never experienced this in my life until recently, and now that I have, I feel like I can share more of my own insight on the topic. I’ve shared my struggles with postpartum depression on my blog before, and while that was hard, I’ve met so many moms through it + even though they are the ones struggling through those dark times, I can’t tell you how much it’s helped me just by helping them. Funny how that works?
I’ve found anxiety, like depression, can really consume your day. It took over my mind, my habits, and my every day conversations. I couldn’t stop thinking of what “might” happen so I’d just shut down. It was suffocating, and still is. Finding a mom tribe is so important. I’ve been in and out of a few different mom groups, but there are some good ones that have stuck around and for that, I’m so thankful. A tribe doesn’t need to be 15 moms. A handful of moms is all you need. Mom-shaming is a real thing and we are all guilty of it. No one is excluded. We’ve all judged a mom for one decision or another. Parenting is hard and we can’t do it alone.
The point of this rambling post is to know that if a friendship isn’t filling your cup, it’s okay to let them go. In this time of judgement and hatred, just know that it’s your own decision and you’re fully capable of owning that decision. If that relationship or friendship is affecting more than one aspect of your life, whether it be your marriage, kids, home life, work life, set it free. I wish someone would’ve said these things to me. It would’ve given me the courage to do this earlier. There are days I don’t truly feel like an adult, capable of making decisions for my family and standing up for myself. But that’s over. I will never let someone make me feel less than what I am, like the things I have in life aren’t good enough. Toxic relationships are just as common as toxic friendships. Comparing kids, parenting styles, homes, incomes; it’s petty. We all need help. This season of life is hard. Don’t feel afraid to ask. I hope this post helps someone, even just one person.
Always, just know if you ever need a friend, I’m here for you.